Not mine for sure!
So, I told you good peeps that I was off to a BBQ at friends on Australia Day (I’m going to over look the fact that I actually screwed up and we drove 1.5 hrs each way on the wrong day and had to do it all over again the following day, completely messing up our long weekend plans*).
“Adventure” aside, we had a lovely day (eventually!), our hosts were delighted to find that the bottle of wine was all for them. We proceeded to chat and eat the afternoon away. Discussion turned, as it so often does with a bunch of middle to slightly older people sitting around, to health.
Crazy Cat Boy and I had explained that we were taking the year off booze**. He said so he could lose weight, that prompted fitness aspiration confessions from around the table, within seconds phones were produced and fitness/health apps were flourished around and workout stats analysed (Boys!).
Apps are fabulous, but the thing that stood out to me is the boys (I was the only woman at the table, not unusual in my world) all had apps that were positive, they were providing their users with a “solution”… my app, a sobriety app, suggested to all that I had a “problem”.
I said so and that got a laugh from the group, but it got me thinking, is it a different mind set with guys when they set out to “improve” themselves? Do women immediately go to a place where we decided that we aren’t good enough and that we have a problem that needs to be fixed? Do men look at things differently? I never even considered downloading a fitness app. Do these even track drinking/non drinking as part of the overall health aspect? (Dunno, haven’t looked and this was supposed to be a short post, I really have a lot of work to do today)
It’s an interesting concept to explore… I work with mostly men and don’t really have a whole lot of IRL interaction with women. I do know that guys don’t do guilt, realising this and taking action to give up guilt myself has helped my mental health a lot. Perhaps they don’t do imperfection either where they are concerned?
What about all of you out there? I know some of you good people are looking closely or actively working on your relationship with alcohol. Thoughts on the female v male psyche on addressing this?
*Didn’t really, just wasted a day in travel. Thank goodness we weren’t hungover and cranky at each other, that could have been a long 1.5 hr trip home! LOL We did go for a long walk and visit a nice garden that was on the “list of stuff to do”.